The Transient and Unreal

                                              

                            We, as human beings, get  born, get a sound education, fall in love and finally fulfill that societal ritual of tying the knot with our respective soulmates. The conjugal life then begins and the emotional bond that sparked off earlier magnifies into an intimate physical union. There are very rare cases where both the partners exchange and share a balanced emotional and physical bond and transcend what we call the satisfaction criteria. Only in rare cases. The rest of the couples stagnate along the way and get lost and don’t find find permanent solutions to their already wrecked married life. Most of the human relationships which primarily thrive on both of the partners competent libido which if lacks in capacity would normally imply either one or both of the partners staying with an unsatisfied and unfulfilled desire for a close physical bond the rest of their lives. Human relationships which automatically would have excelled and reached great heights of ecstasy by leaps and bounds if spiritually exercised would normally stay static and unfulfilled if human tools and instruments are instrumented as a medium to gain happiness and satisfaction. The same case applies in emotional bonds. Human relationships either shape up or wreck peoples lives. I have seen the lives of innumerable people who have had their entire career and lives wrecked because of shattered and broken dreams.

                       So what do we think is the cause of great tragedies in human life which normally catapults by the issue of the incapacities of emotional and physical bonds? Mr.Dipak Chopra declares in his book Power, Freedom and Grace that one of main causes of human suffering is clinging onto that which is transient and unreal. The human senses and social conditioning hypnotizes us into believing that human relationships, sex and the conjugal life are one of the greatest medium of gratification on the planet.  The human body which is nothing but pure energy is converted into various contours and shapes by one of the most villainous instruments in the entire world, the human senses. The human social conditioning adds more fuel to the fire of delusion by making us believe that trivial issues like sex, relationships and marriage are a necessary means for an outlet to insanity, for great sources of satisfaction and happiness, for feelings of security and for fulfillment etc.

                       The only permanent presence of human aspect on planet earth is that of our non-material or soul nature. So when our physical and human mind can be transcended through the spiritual growth process, do we think the physical and mental frame of the human body has a realistic essence? What makes us suffer when we repeatedly get identified with  transient and unreal aspects as the physical body and sex? When the physical and mental aspects can be transcended we now know that sex and the physical body are unreal. They are not what reality is all about. When we get identified with unreality and not with our real nature the only thing that is produced is temporary happiness and frequent suffering. The main drawback that prevents one from being Self-Realised is continually getting identified with unreal, material or the external world. The moment a spiritual  aspirant  withdraws  from  the  unreal  or external  world Self-Realisation is actualized. So now it  can be affirmed now that sex and the human physical body which is in actuality transient and unreal is one of the main causes of human suffering.

                             So what is the best measure that should be taken to stop getting identified with the transient and unreal and stop the suffering contacted from the effects of it? Transcending the transient and unreal is the only way to contain the adverse effects and the extreme suffering it creates. Exercising the powers of consciousness and transcending the fourth spiritual plane is the first step in alleviating human suffering from our lives. One of the most significant developments that happens when you transcend the Anahat or your fourth spiritual centre is that your senses gets dissolved. You shall start getting attracted towards beauty and not towards sexuality from this point onwards. There is no need to worry because your senses getting dissolved does not imply that you have become impotent. Only that you have started becoming less sexual and more soul or God natured. There is a natural state of ease and relaxation when one no longer starts getting distracted by one of the most disturbing and demanding attractions on the planet, sex. Maintaining a state of no desires for sex, you are gradually shaping your life into a more balanced and Godly nature. The development of the state of happiness from this point onwards is such that even sexual fulfillment is not necessary and mandatory to remain happy. You are happy without a cause or reason.

                       Maintaining a perfectly balanced material and spiritual life is the best bet for a harmonious life. The best option to escape from the hassles of effects the transient and unreal can create is starting a regular and dedicated spiritual practice. It becomes easier for married couples to succeed on the spiritual path more easily and quickly than the solo spiritual aspirants. Physical union speeds up spiritual growth but there should be complete harmonious compatibility with your soulmate on all levels. Once the Anahat chakra becomes active, the married couples will start living their lives loving each other depending more on the love theme than on the sex theme. True and pure love starts emanating for each other and the married couples will no longer have to depend on sex for fulfillment.

                             Let us all realize before its too late that like in accidental cases, one of the causes of human suffering, clinging onto that which is transient and unreal, can completely shatter our lives down to the very roots. As the famous saying goes," A stitch in time saves nine". So before it starts getting too late, let us all awaken to the only medication to save us from the effects of the transient and unreal, transcending that which is transient and unreal and living a life of everlasting bliss ever after."God Bless Us All."
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